7 EMOTIONAL WOUNDS of childhood that last when we are adults...

The emotional wounds that we suffer in childhood can be dragged throughout life, even in the stages of adult life, so it is necessary to learn how to detoxify all these negative emotions, to begin to heal from within. How emotional wounds of childhood affect Traumas, called emotional wounds in childhood will become part of the core of our emotions when we are adults, we could compare it with what happens when we mistreat a plant as soon as it germinates, the consequences of that abuse will remain in the plant is its leaves and roots throughout the life of the plant. Understand how children learn As parents we must become aware of this reality and constantly monitor and review our actions towards children and family life, and remember that they learn more to observe how you "do" things than to "listen" to what you say. that same thing The children do not come with a manual, it is in a "daily doing" that we develop our parental style, developing skills to overcome each of the obstacles that we find along the way. There will never be a perfect father but you will be the best father you can be, putting into practice your observation, improvement and change skills. Then it is worth remembering here what are the main emotional wounds and traumas, which can be caused in the emotional life of the children of the house, to use as a way of prevention, when acting.  At the same time we include some useful tips to take into account when we must make certain decisions. 1. Fear of abandonment, a prison in the heart: This emotional wound of the past has its origin when the mother, or the caregiver of a child, can not, or does not want to, respond as a protective figure against the fears that the child experiences. They are small left in charge of third parties or left alone for long periods, or simply children of mothers or fathers who, for personal reasons, do not want to adequately respond to the demands of company and care that children require. People who have experienced abandonment in their childhood are often insecure and develop an emotional dependence, based on a deep fear of being abandoned again. 2. Intrafamily violence, an internal chaos: Culturally, we have been taught that hitting children is acceptable behavior, however, there are many investigations that tell us otherwise. Hitting will teach children to resolve their conflicts with violence, not to adequately handle their outbursts of anger, to resolve their family conflicts by way of the "Law of the strongest". These sequels and emotional wounds of childhood, will be taken to adulthood and affect, generating spouses and abusive spouses. 3. Rejection, a desolate mirror: There are parents who reject their children for various reasons; It came at an inappropriate time, it is the product of carelessness, it is exactly like your dad, etc. The constant rejection of our son will generate a process of self-rejection. This emotional wound of the past in the adult stage will reverberate with the feeling that never, whatever he does, can be "enough" in life, in work, in studies and even in love, these individuals will prefer to remain alone and isolated 4. Injustice, an impotent soul. From an early age, children have the ability to assess whether a situation in which they are involved is fair or unfair, or if on the contrary they receive equal treatment, and for those who have several children this is a matter of extreme importance . Living in an environment that has been totally unfair, this ends up deteriorating the "I", conveying to them the idea that they are not worthy of the attention of others.  An adult who has suffered this emotional wound may then become an insecure person or, on the contrary, a cynical person who has a pessimistic view of life. This person will have problems trusting others and establishing relationships, because unconsciously he thinks that everyone will treat him badly. 5. Treason, unfulfilled promises, a terrifying world: Tomorrow I'm going to take you to sign up so you can learn to dance, if you behave yourself I'll buy you that car you saw the other day. Sometimes parents are great promising, we promise and do not keep promises, but this generates a trauma in the little ones, an emotional wound, goes teaching that the world and the people close are not reliable, and when adult will have a personality insecure, fearful and cellopathic. 6. Humiliation, a hurt spirit: Today more than ever this phenomenon is seen, every day there are more children who grow up in humiliating environments, bullying is one of them, children who are constantly subjected to humiliating situations, ridicule, and disqualification, either at school or at school. home. They grow with a great tendency to depression and low self-esteem. Surely we all remember a humiliating situation in childhood, just remember to remember how serious this emotional trauma of childhood and how it ends up being a burden we carry in adult life. 7. Fear of the unknown, a boat without a port: Many parents encourage our children to lose their fear of the dark or unknown places, or underestimate their fears by saying that they are not cowards, fear of water, etc. Children require a little patience, and violent immersion in unfamiliar environments will only generate insecure individuals, afraid of change, and resistant to difference. It only remains to say ... And as Gardel says in his famous tango ... To live, with a clinging soul, to a sweet memory, that I cry again ... the memories of childhood will mark the rest of our lives, attentive dear parents.